Life Lessons are something we all experience.  Some we label as “good” and some we label as “bad.”  To really learn the lesson we must take a step back from the situation and look at the problem with new eyes. 

Not to judge the situation so we can make ourselves feel bad for even being in that situation, but to look at it and instead of saying “why me” which is always a victim question; to say, “What is this experience trying to teach me?”  That question helps us discover the life lesson we are supposed to be learning.

Time has a way of revealing certain things to us; as time goes by we can look back on our lives and see the many life lessons we’ve learned.  However, wouldn’t it be great and probably more helpful, if we could learn the life lessons as we are in the midst of those challenges.  The reason we want to learn them now, rather than later, is so we can stop repeating them.

This past weekend, I was chasing my cat and slipped and fell in my kitchen hitting the granite countertop and cabinet pretty hard with my right shoulder.  I ended up in the emergency room and now have a sling on my right arm.  What’s interesting to me is that I keep re-injuring this part of my body. 

Being in a lot of pain always makes one slow down (usually not by choice but because we are being forced to slow down as a result of the pain) and slowing down helps us get more into that “observer” zone.

I believe that all dis-ease or injuries have a mental/emotional/spiritual component to them.  I don’t believe diseases or injuries are purely physical.   After my injury, I picked up the book, “The 12 Stages of Healing” by Donald Epstein and began re-reading this material as I felt strongly that there was some type of pattern or rut I was stuck in.

The author, Donald Epstein, talks about dis-ease and pain and says:

“It speaks volumes about those alienated, disconnected, and dishonored aspects of our selves.”

He also speaks about the various stages we go through in order to be healed.  Like the first stage of healing which is just feeling like we have to put up with “it” whatever it is.  Being forced to bear something that we can’t escape.

In the second stage of healing we begin moving in the direction of empowerment and wholeness, we have not yet claimed our inner power.  We look for external agents to heal us — authority figures, law and order, miracle cures, etc, which is a substitute for the inner power we have not yet claimed.

Epstein says, “…illness is a consequence of the bodymind striving for wholeness — it does not cause a lack of wholeness.”

I believe with my injury and my pain that there is a pattern or perspective that I am stuck in and something internal is going on that I need to look at that needs healing.  My “old injury” (repeated trauma to my right shoulder) is saying “I want to move ahead, but I can’t because I am stuck in an old way of seeing things.”  I am stuck in a perspective. 

We all remember the fairy tale of Sleeping Beauty who was awakened by a kiss right?  Well, we need to awaken to…to our own inner power.  The way we do that is when a challenging situation, person, event, disease, accident or injury occurs, instead of looking for external causes to the event, we instead turn inward and develop a strong sense of self that allows us to assume a greater degree of responsibility toward our situation.

I have a friend right now that is in a very abusive marriage.  She complains about the things that her husband does, but she doesn’t look inward to see what needs to be healed inside of her that is causing her to stay in this abusive marriage.  Not only does my friend put herself in harm’s way, but also her 6-year old son.  Remember, the victim says, “Why me?”; and the empowered woman who honors herself asks, “What is this situation trying to teach me?” 

Usually the lesson we need to learn is healing the part of ourself that is stuck in an old perspective which is not honoring our “self”.  If we have suffered emotional trauma as children (and most of us have) we can be stuck in that perspective as adults if we don’t heal from it.  Dr. Epstein says “You can’t heal it until you can feel it.”  So we have to go through the feelings in order to be healed.

As we being to heal a new perspective emerges and we say things like:

 I will not take this anymore. 

I won’t let this happen to me any longer.

I don’t deserve this. 

We take action and do something about it.

I don’t know what’s going on in your life with your finances, your relationships, your career, your family, or your health, but I do know that we all are wounded in some way and that we need to heal our wounds. 

If you keep experiencing something over and over, take a step back and look inside.  Journaling and meditation are great tools to  help you uncover those internal messages you need in order to heal.

My Become a 6-Figure Woman website is not just about making money, it’s about becoming “whole” so that we feel worthy enough to let good people, good situations and yes, money too, into our lives!

There is nothing separate about you.  When you heal and integrate all parts of your being, you will become prosperous in all areas of your life.